“ it always feels kind of self-centered and egotisic to assume that if a guy is talking to me he is interested in sex-things.”
“ I always get asked if I want to hang out, but 90% of the time, they want some kind of sex thing.”
You’re not making assumptions anymore. Even if 90% is exaggerated, you’ve still recognized that this is already happening regularly. There’s nothing to feel self-centered about by asking some questions up front.
Suggesting neutral and public places to hang out might be a starting point, but remember, Item 2 will eventually lead back to Item 1. You’ll still need to be prepared to ask these questions, even if it’s hard to do.
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“ I always get asked if I want to hang out, but 90% of the time, they want some kind of sex thing.”
You’re not making assumptions anymore. Even if 90% is exaggerated, you’ve still recognized that this is already happening regularly. There’s nothing to feel self-centered about by asking some questions up front.
Suggesting neutral and public places to hang out might be a starting point, but remember, Item 2 will eventually lead back to Item 1. You’ll still need to be prepared to ask these questions, even if it’s hard to do.