No hurry with the words, and no real need to settle on one "best" set. General consensus is that it's quite OK to use as many descriptions as you need. For myself, understanding that you range between ace and low-intensity demi, and that cuddles and kink are what holds a relationship together for you, is a perfectly adequate description, thanks.

Glad you appreciated the tips. My own issues with how getting into relationships with people was typically framed kept me from trying it for a long time -- and working out a framing that worked for me was a big help.

Learning subtext dialects and inferring which ones might be in play from whatever overt clues are present is much more challenging for some folks than others -- and introverts more than others. It shouldn't say anything about someone's worth as a person if they don't do it well, but too many people seem to think otherwise.

I was once comfortable enough not being in a relationship, but decided to try it out to see whether I liked it better. Here's hoping you can work out something that might work better for you and try it out, and, if it works, can tell anyone who decides they're uncomfortable with that to go pound sand.