>>OK, so I'mma assume here that by "dudes" you mean "cisgender guys".<<
Yes, sorry about that. As far as I know, everybody I lumped into the "dudes" category has been a straight cisgender male.
>>Most trans guys I've known aren't pigs - we've been socialized female and had to deal with the male gaze unless we were lucky enough to transition very very young, so we get how it is and don't want to creep women out (if we're interested in women; some of us are gay guys lol). <<
That makes a lot of sense.
>>In any case, I don't think asking to clarify is a bad idea. Anyone who actually truly wants to be your friend should be able to deal with any awkwardness of that question without a big deal, because yes, not everyone can read people.<<
That makes sense too. And really, anybody that is going to be my friend needs to be able to handle at least some degree of awkwardness, as I tend to not be very smooth and there are going to be *some* awkward moments.
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Yes, sorry about that. As far as I know, everybody I lumped into the "dudes" category has been a straight cisgender male.
>>Most trans guys I've known aren't pigs - we've been socialized female and had to deal with the male gaze unless we were lucky enough to transition very very young, so we get how it is and don't want to creep women out (if we're interested in women; some of us are gay guys lol). <<
That makes a lot of sense.
>>In any case, I don't think asking to clarify is a bad idea. Anyone who actually truly wants to be your friend should be able to deal with any awkwardness of that question without a big deal, because yes, not everyone can read people.<<
That makes sense too. And really, anybody that is going to be my friend needs to be able to handle at least some degree of awkwardness, as I tend to not be very smooth and there are going to be *some* awkward moments.