We seem to be looking at the same issue of being stereotyped by our body and presentation, from different angles. I appreciated your take. I got a lot more comfortable once I found a way to reframe the issue that worked for me. In the same format:

I am neither man nor woman,
Yet every item of clothing
Is marked for one or the other.
So when am I not crossdressing?

Stores sort their clothing by gender.
I am neither man nor woman.
Where is my clothing department?
I search, but I cannot find it.

Calling clothes "men's" or "women's" is
Just other people's opinions.
I am neither man nor woman;
The whole store is my department.

I choose the clothing that suits me.
I mark those clothes for my gender.
I am no longer crossdressing.
I am neither man nor woman.