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[fuzzyred]

All the pool money has been sent in, so there should be lots of new poems over the next couple days!

Does anyone have any links or tips for increasing confidence amd the ability to say "no" definitively? These are both things I need to work on, but I'm not quite sure how. And I'd rather have the skills before I need them, than have to try to forge them in a crisis.

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[technoshaman]

I both do and don't. I struggle with these things a lot; though at the office my management's support has given me more confidence in saying no... how to do that outside a supportive context is a lot harder.

However. I do know of a book roughly on the subject; I had gotten the version oriented towards the workplace near the end of my tenure at a bad place, and then never had time to read it. This is the original, more personally-oriented book: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/133203.The_Gentle_Art_of_Verbal_Self_Defense

[fuzzyred]

Having support is always nice. And yes, saying no without support around you is much harder, though those seem to be the instances where it's most needed.

I will have to check out that book, I could use a bit of verbal self defense.

[technoshaman]

I thought you might could. Let me know what you think, if you do read it?

[fuzzyred]

Will do. *sets a sticky note reminder to look at acquiring the book when more spoons are available*