Interlude

[fuzzyred]

So, I need to do a proper weekly post, as I'm already a day late, but first, this small note to myself.

I have realized I need to start asking dudes if it's a booty call. I don't want to sound vain, and I hate assuming everything is about sex, because to me it's not, but the evidence keeps stacking up to say that it is for the vast majority of everybody else. I always get asked if I want to hang out, but 90% of the time, they want some kind of sex thing. And I don't mind this sometimes, but I'd like to know up front if that's what they're after. So. Next time a male friend/friendly acquaintance asks me to hang out, I'm going to polite ask if they actually mean hanging out, or if they want sexyfuntimes, and I can apologize for making assumptions if I need to.

*headdesk* Has anyone written a manual for dealing with and reading people yet? And if so, can I pretty please buy it, or at least rent it? I can pay in cash, fiber crafts, or editing. *joking but not really*

Comments

[fuzzyred]

>>Perhaps a more practical approach would be to start with the guys with whom this has been an issue already.<<

This sounds like a solid plan. I also got some tips further down about how to avoid miscommunications of this sort that I will be adding to my rotation of "ways to handle boys*."

*and by boys, I mean cisgendered straight men, because, to my knowledge, that is who I've been dealing with. My approach may be adjusted if I start needing to deal with other gender identities and expressions.

[arthur_p_dent]

Then I suppose as a final clarification, I should state that my opinions would only apply to cisgendered straight men, as that’s the only perspective I have. I wouldn’t pretend to apply the same logic to anyone who identifies differently.

Good luck finding your path. =]

[fuzzyred]

That makes sense. It is often easiest to give insight into the things we know best, most often through personal experience.

Thank you :) I think it's going okay so far.