I want to make a new word

[fuzzyred]

I was thinking about my sexuality last night, and how hard it can be for me to set boundaries or figure out what I want, because I don't have strong preferences on anything. Usually I think of the word "ambivalent" for this, but I think "indifferent" is actually the more accurate term.

"Ambivalent" - having mixed feelings or contradictory ideas about something or someone.
"Indifferent" - having no particular interest or sympathy; unconcerned.

Truthfully, either of those words perfectly describes my feelings on sex. The word I use most often is "meh"; I don't hate sex, I'm not opposed to it, orgasms do feel good, but I have no strong desire for it either. It is further down on my priority list and I can go quite a while without it and not miss anything. Sex (and orgasms) is a thing, not good, not bad, just there, unless the right stimulus comes along.

These feelings led me to thinking of two words, the first of which probably wouldn't work for me because of the definition of ambivalent, the second of which would be better, because "indifferent" is a pretty good description of my feelings. "Ambisexual" or "Insexual". The definition I would give to the word (if you have a thought which is better, let me know) is as follows:
"Ambisexual" or "Insexual": one who has no strong feelings about sex either way. Is not repulsed by sex but also does not think sex is the greatest thing in the world. May be accompanied by a low sex drive.

Noodling around with words is fun, let me know if you think one would be better than the other, or if there is already a term that matches what I described. I'm also happy to answer questions if anyone wants clarification or more details.

Comments

[fuzzyred]

I like "ambisexual" too, for the same reason, although if I used either, I'd have to explain the word anyway XD

(Hello! I am currently using the words Grey-Ace and quoiromantic. [I had to look up your terms, so now I know new words!])

[ex_flameandsong751]

I actually only just discovered the words aegosexual/autochorisexual a few months ago and it hit me like a ton of bricks, like "Oh, you mean I'm not the only person on planet Earth who's like this???!!!" I also identify as pan, in the sense that I don't really want to get it on with a bio-partner, but in terms of thinking so-and-so is attractive, I've had the "hot" reaction with varying genders and non-genders. "Grey-ace" *is* a convenient shorthand, so I list "grey-ace" on my big-ass wall-of-text sticky post, but yeah. XD

[fuzzyred]

Finding new terms is always exciting, and I have a feeling there will *always* be new words to find. This is mostly why I don't worry to much about labels, though sometimes it's handy to have a name for it if it facilitates explaining. I'm glad you found something that fits for you. :)