I'm still trying to figure out what words describe me best. Some days, demi seems to fit, and other days I wonder if ace works better. I definitely have an easier time being intimate (in any way) with people I know better, and a higher desire to explore things like that with someone I know rather than a stranger. I can take or leave the sex bits though; they can be really good with the right partner, but I can go for months at a time and never miss sexual interaction with another person. I will miss cuddles and kink before I miss partner-induced orgasms.
Those are fabulous tips! It helps a lot, and it is something I can keep in mind for next time. It is also easier to redirect/suggest an activity than coming right out and asking if they were angling for x-rated activites.
You are probably right about there being too much variation to write a book; it is part of what makes deciphering things so tricky. One person can mean X, one can mean Y, and one can mean Banana, yet they can all sound so similar as to be identical. I sympathsize with you hitting these kinds of challenges regularly as a genderqueer individual.
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Re: Wise to be wary
Date: 2021-06-19 12:53 am (UTC)Those are fabulous tips! It helps a lot, and it is something I can keep in mind for next time. It is also easier to redirect/suggest an activity than coming right out and asking if they were angling for x-rated activites.
You are probably right about there being too much variation to write a book; it is part of what makes deciphering things so tricky. One person can mean X, one can mean Y, and one can mean Banana, yet they can all sound so similar as to be identical. I sympathsize with you hitting these kinds of challenges regularly as a genderqueer individual.