That sounds like a very difficult job and I don't envy her one bit.
I variously do and don't manage to do that. I have a very big people-pleasing tendency, as well as being Conflict Avoidant, as well as being perceptible to other people's disappointment/upset/emotions because my mental shields are still very weak. SO, sometimes I manage to tell people, and other times not. It's a work in progress.
That... That is very nice. I already kind of sort of knew you your flexible on expectations, but it's so nice to have confirmation. Just *HUGS* That kind of understanding is rare for me, and very precious, even if my mind doesn't always grasp that there are some situations where I *don't* have to follow what society expects. *Yes*, yes those people are very tiring to deal with.
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Date: 2020-08-08 02:18 am (UTC)I variously do and don't manage to do that. I have a very big people-pleasing tendency, as well as being Conflict Avoidant, as well as being perceptible to other people's disappointment/upset/emotions because my mental shields are still very weak. SO, sometimes I manage to tell people, and other times not. It's a work in progress.
That... That is very nice. I already kind of sort of knew you your flexible on expectations, but it's so nice to have confirmation. Just *HUGS* That kind of understanding is rare for me, and very precious, even if my mind doesn't always grasp that there are some situations where I *don't* have to follow what society expects. *Yes*, yes those people are very tiring to deal with.