I have come across that term before, and it seems to fit me fairly well.
>>O_O That really sucks. Sometimes masturbation will make it go away, occasionally herbs or meditation will help, but other times the only solution is to have sex you don't really want to make your bits stop bothering you.<<
Thankfully, I usually *can* deal with it through masturbation. But even then there still seems to be a disconnect. It's physically pleasurable but my brain isn't engaged, especially in the beginning. At least when I take care of it myself, there are no icky feelings that go along with it, just a sense of "hey, body thought this was a good idea." I've had multiple experiences with partners where I didn't get the appropriate foreplay (usually mental for me), and I spent most of the encounter thinking "Are you done yet?" and "Why are you touching me?" But it wasn't physically unpleasant so I kept going. I possibly maybe need to review my boundaries and how to set them right.
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Re: One person’s take...
Date: 2021-02-24 02:28 am (UTC)I have come across that term before, and it seems to fit me fairly well.
>>O_O That really sucks. Sometimes masturbation will make it go away, occasionally herbs or meditation will help, but other times the only solution is to have sex you don't really want to make your bits stop bothering you.<<
Thankfully, I usually *can* deal with it through masturbation. But even then there still seems to be a disconnect. It's physically pleasurable but my brain isn't engaged, especially in the beginning. At least when I take care of it myself, there are no icky feelings that go along with it, just a sense of "hey, body thought this was a good idea." I've had multiple experiences with partners where I didn't get the appropriate foreplay (usually mental for me), and I spent most of the encounter thinking "Are you done yet?" and "Why are you touching me?" But it wasn't physically unpleasant so I kept going. I possibly maybe need to review my boundaries and how to set them right.