>> There wasn't very much being trusted to go somewhere alone though. <<
Yeah, I was a teenager by the time the "stranger danger" overreaction had ramped up to the point where that vanished.
(The word that used to be a common choice for the feeling I wrote "overreaction" for is one I'm not using any more, due to its historical inference that it was peculiar to women and driven by their wombs.)
>> I actually waited longer to leave home to make sure I didn't do that; once I left I wanted to be sure I wouldn't have to go back. <<
I left as soon as I was ready. My folks made sure that all their children got to learn enough of the skills needed to live on their own. I recognized that I wouldn't really have a chance to find out who I was unless I did. I went far enough away that popping over for a visit (in either direction) was not going to be A Thing.
Part of that independence for me was paying for my own postgraduate education and living expenses. I wouldn't have felt like I was calling my own shots if my folks were.
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Date: 2020-02-14 06:13 pm (UTC)Yeah, I was a teenager by the time the "stranger danger" overreaction had ramped up to the point where that vanished.
(The word that used to be a common choice for the feeling I wrote "overreaction" for is one I'm not using any more, due to its historical inference that it was peculiar to women and driven by their wombs.)
>> I actually waited longer to leave home to make sure I didn't do that; once I left I wanted to be sure I wouldn't have to go back. <<
I left as soon as I was ready. My folks made sure that all their children got to learn enough of the skills needed to live on their own. I recognized that I wouldn't really have a chance to find out who I was unless I did. I went far enough away that popping over for a visit (in either direction) was not going to be A Thing.
Part of that independence for me was paying for my own postgraduate education and living expenses. I wouldn't have felt like I was calling my own shots if my folks were.