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fuzzyredSave me from the idiots! *deep breath* Ok, very important order of business: find coping mechanisms that let me deal with frustration and ?feeling I can't name? (disappointment, failure, criticism, feeling like I did something wrong even if the other person is being nice and just explaining things without bein accusatory).
Frustration just gets me riled up, and I will occasionally over-react compared to what other people are expecting. This means I sometimes end up looking foolish for my reactions, especially when reacting to a persons actions. I'm ok with tis for the most part, but I don't want to look (or be) irrational, so this is something I'd like to improve. Ways to calm down, let things go, and judge appropriate responses to a situation are what I need to find here.
That second conglomeration of feelings is a little more pressing. My knee jerk reaction to any of the listed sort-of feelings is to get teary and choked up, and sometimes defensive. This is definitely not a desirable reaction and finding ways to channel the feeling that don't leave me crying or anxiously upset with no way to calm down is high priority.
(Both of these are situations that have happened at work today, and happen on an often enough (though not daily) basis for me to want to find ways to avoid a repetition of events.)
Frustration just gets me riled up, and I will occasionally over-react compared to what other people are expecting. This means I sometimes end up looking foolish for my reactions, especially when reacting to a persons actions. I'm ok with tis for the most part, but I don't want to look (or be) irrational, so this is something I'd like to improve. Ways to calm down, let things go, and judge appropriate responses to a situation are what I need to find here.
That second conglomeration of feelings is a little more pressing. My knee jerk reaction to any of the listed sort-of feelings is to get teary and choked up, and sometimes defensive. This is definitely not a desirable reaction and finding ways to channel the feeling that don't leave me crying or anxiously upset with no way to calm down is high priority.
(Both of these are situations that have happened at work today, and happen on an often enough (though not daily) basis for me to want to find ways to avoid a repetition of events.)
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Date: 2020-03-27 05:34 pm (UTC)Am thinking some of the DBT toolbox would be good here...
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Date: 2020-03-27 06:27 pm (UTC)DBT? Am not familiar with that term.