Be up front and authentic. Communication of your awesome and not so awesome features is important. The people who don't appreciate the up front info usually aren't worth a long term personal investment.
I had a coworker tell me she thought I was being a completely fake person until I just kept right on being myself for the first 3-4 months of our working relationship and she realized that I was not going to change...that I really was exactly who I said I was. Then we had a laugh.
Ask people what they need or prefer. This ticks the People Pleasing Button and the "I can pop this in my phone and set a reminder if I need to or whatever else works for me" buttons.
Some people are totally fine with occasional contact and some even prefer it.
Try not to make it a competition for yourself or anyone else in your life, that puts way too much pressure on.
If you don't have what you're looking for right now, you have time to find it, and if it didn't work out for you today then it might work out fantastically tomorrow.
Rest assured that you are winning by the very nature of the fact that you are striving to achieve balance and working towards making your social life even better than it is now. Seriously. YOU ARE ALREADY MADE OF THE WIN.
Just keep trying. :D
And as John and Hank Green always say.... Don't Forget To Be Awesome.
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Date: 2020-08-13 01:22 am (UTC)I had a coworker tell me she thought I was being a completely fake person until I just kept right on being myself for the first 3-4 months of our working relationship and she realized that I was not going to change...that I really was exactly who I said I was. Then we had a laugh.
Ask people what they need or prefer. This ticks the People Pleasing Button and the "I can pop this in my phone and set a reminder if I need to or whatever else works for me" buttons.
Some people are totally fine with occasional contact and some even prefer it.
Try not to make it a competition for yourself or anyone else in your life, that puts way too much pressure on.
If you don't have what you're looking for right now, you have time to find it, and if it didn't work out for you today then it might work out fantastically tomorrow.
Rest assured that you are winning by the very nature of the fact that you are striving to achieve balance and working towards making your social life even better than it is now. Seriously. YOU ARE ALREADY MADE OF THE WIN.
Just keep trying. :D
And as John and Hank Green always say.... Don't Forget To Be Awesome.