>>But the original question relates more to dating, not making friends (at least that’s how I read it).<<
For the most part, yes. Although I am more frequently looking to keep things just platonic and at the friendship level, and even that doesn't seem to compute most times; I'm interacting in a friendly and possibly flirty (usually unintentionally) manner with someone who has a different crotch shape, I MUST want sex. *eyeroll*
>>The introduction of sensual acts in dating (back rubs, cuddling, etc) for them is a precursor to more sexual acts. Remove sex as the end goal, and they have no motivation to continue.<<
I sort of agree with this, but not entirely. I think sexual people more often *expect* sensual things to lead to orgasm related stuff, but I don't think they have zero motivation if sex is removed. Cuddling feels good to most everyone, as do hugs and back rub type things. So I think even with sexuals you can have one without the other, it's just expectations that differ. And they may choose not to continue the relationship if they realize sex is totally off the table.
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Re: One person’s take...
Date: 2021-02-24 01:17 am (UTC)For the most part, yes. Although I am more frequently looking to keep things just platonic and at the friendship level, and even that doesn't seem to compute most times; I'm interacting in a friendly and possibly flirty (usually unintentionally) manner with someone who has a different crotch shape, I MUST want sex. *eyeroll*
>>The introduction of sensual acts in dating (back rubs, cuddling, etc) for them is a precursor to more sexual acts. Remove sex as the end goal, and they have no motivation to continue.<<
I sort of agree with this, but not entirely. I think sexual people more often *expect* sensual things to lead to orgasm related stuff, but I don't think they have zero motivation if sex is removed. Cuddling feels good to most everyone, as do hugs and back rub type things. So I think even with sexuals you can have one without the other, it's just expectations that differ. And they may choose not to continue the relationship if they realize sex is totally off the table.