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Conflicting plans
Sep. 27th, 2021 09:04 pmI hate making decisions. And I hate more when deciding means I'm going to disappoint someone. It always seems like I either have zero plans or all the plans at once. In this case, I got invited to a surprise birthday party for a friend this Saturday. The invite was issued weeks ago and I decided I would go, even though there are some activities planned that are on the edge of my comfort zone.
Then yesterday my grandma said that she is having both my cousins and their kids over this Saturday for dinner so that they have an easier time with Thanksgiving plans next weekend, and my gram invited me and my sister as well. Usually my gram does things on Sundays, but apparently there is a car show they might go to Sunday so dinner was planned for Saturday.
Both are this Saturday. The party is at 3pm in a city 2 hours from here. Gram's dinner is... well... dinner, so probably around 5 or 6. I have no clue how to decide which to go to because I want to attend both and I really love my family but I made the other commitment first and no matter what someone is going to be disappointed and I'm going to feel guilty. I keep trying to see if there is some way I could do both, but I really don't think that's going to be possible.
I'm leaning towards family, because I don't often see everyone all together and justifying not being there is going to be hard, but cancelling after saying yes to the party sucks too. And I can feel myself fishing for someone to tell me, "Do x, it's the right thing to do," so that I don't have to feel guilty but that's not the way life works and I have to make my own choice. It's just hard when I know I'm going to be letting someone down.
Then yesterday my grandma said that she is having both my cousins and their kids over this Saturday for dinner so that they have an easier time with Thanksgiving plans next weekend, and my gram invited me and my sister as well. Usually my gram does things on Sundays, but apparently there is a car show they might go to Sunday so dinner was planned for Saturday.
Both are this Saturday. The party is at 3pm in a city 2 hours from here. Gram's dinner is... well... dinner, so probably around 5 or 6. I have no clue how to decide which to go to because I want to attend both and I really love my family but I made the other commitment first and no matter what someone is going to be disappointed and I'm going to feel guilty. I keep trying to see if there is some way I could do both, but I really don't think that's going to be possible.
I'm leaning towards family, because I don't often see everyone all together and justifying not being there is going to be hard, but cancelling after saying yes to the party sucks too. And I can feel myself fishing for someone to tell me, "Do x, it's the right thing to do," so that I don't have to feel guilty but that's not the way life works and I have to make my own choice. It's just hard when I know I'm going to be letting someone down.
