Late (or really late) Weekly Update

[fuzzyred]

Once again it is Friday instead of Thursday, and I forgot to make a post at all last week. Ugh. I was doing really well at the start of the year, and then... it just kind of fell apart on me.

I am officially moved into my new house. I had some wonderful help to load up the Uhaul two Sundays ago, and some equally wonderful help to unload it last Saturday. We're not unpacked all the way yet, but I'd estimate between half and three quarters of the boxes have been dealt with. All of the required services have been transfered and set up as well, and what furniture was needed has been purchased, so I think I can finally relax now. Painting has been done and the main rooms are just about set up, so it's starting to look like a real house now. I suspect I won't be fully happy until all the boxes have been unpacked and everything put away, but there is time for that, as much as I just want it over and done with.

I'm also hoping that I can start getting back into a routine now, since I've let a lot of the every day stuff go. I have a feeling when I do my goal review at the end of the year I'll have more misses than I wanted, but I wasn't planning on selling my house when I wrote them, so I think I'll cut myself some slack there.

The other thing that's been on my mind lately is mt orientation. A few things have happened (nothing bad) that make me feel that "asexual" isn't really the right label, and I'm not sure grey-asexual works either. The thing is, I don't know what I *would* fit into instead. My attraction isn't limited to just a certain gender but I also *really* don't place a high priority on, or have a have desire for, sexual encounters. I think maybe "demisexual" fits, but I'm not sure. I know I don't need a label, but sometimes it's nice to have a place you fit. Three things I know for certain though: I'm kinky through and through; one-night stands or casual sex arrangements hold no appeal for me whatsoever; and, while I do lean heavily towards men for sexual and kinky encounters, that's not an absolute. I find many kinds of people beautiful and personality usual plays into my sexual desire for a person as much as, if not more than, physical appearance. So if anybody has a list of words, I shall look at them, because, Oooo words! but otherwise I'm just going to keep on being me, with a little extra confusion.

I hope all of you are doing well and that you have a splendid weekend coming up. Much love and comfort to all.

Comments

As if labels weren't confusing enough

[warriorsavant]

Was never sure what demisexual meant, so just looked it up, and found two entirely different definitions. I understand your thought that sometimes it's just convenient to have a label, so why don't we just label you 'wonderful' and let it go at that.

BTW, you mention "we" have moved, which raises the question of who the other part of the plural pronoun is, and does that have anything to do with how you are labeling yourself? (Nosy git, ain't I?)

Re: As if labels weren't confusing enough

[fuzzyred]

😁 I like that suggestion. My default does tend to be "I'm just me" if I don't find accurate words to describe my me-ness.

In this case, the "we" is three physically separate people; I just bought a house with my sister and brother-in-law. It's entirely possible I forgot to mention that fact anywhere, whoops

Re: As if labels weren't confusing enough

[warriorsavant]

Dunno if you forgot to post, or I didn’t read that day (week?). Very busy these days, and don’t always have time to post/read. Also don’t always have anything interesting to say, so don’t always post. Anyhow, hope it works well for the 3 of you.

Re: As if labels weren't confusing enough

[fuzzyred]

Thank you. It's going pretty smoothly so far.

[shadowhive]

I can relate with posting and such, I’ve been so bad at it (but worse at reading and commenting alas)

Oh I’m glad the move has gone well! It sounds like everything has gone pretty smoothly

Ohh I’m not sure what mt orientation helps. I get what you mean though, labels aren’t always something we need but sometimes it helps having a word for exactly how you feel (and how you can connect with others)

[fuzzyred]

I have also been very bad at commenting lately, and replying to comments (I'm trying to get better though).

Thank you! Things have been pretty smooth and almost everything is unpacked and has a place. There are a few little things to do still, but for the most part everything is done. And I survived the holiday season in the new house, so that was an added bonus.

Yes. I don't care too much about labels, I'm mostly fine with "I'm just me," but sometimes it's nice to have something I can use to tell someone what/who I am, without needing to give a 5-page essay about it.

[mdlbear]

"mt orientation" -> "my orientation"?

Anyway, sounds like possibly some combination of bisexual and demisexual.

[fuzzyred]

This is entirely possible. As far as sexual attraction goes, I think I might be pansexual, or some similar term that means I find people of all genders attractive. For actually wanting to *engage* in sexual activity with someone, I think I'm somewhere between the demisexual and asexual spectra, though I really have no freaking clue.